When I was at school I made friends with a kid who played a lot of video games. He enjoyed the same games that I did and we spent most of our hours chilling and playing the Sony Playstation. As time progressed I moved my home and met different people. People who were more socially extroverted and enjoyed playing sports – people who were by societies standards considered popular.
While I had been more of a natural extrovert I often found myself caught in between my friends who hadn’t yet socially adjusted. I had begun to see things in the Introverts which the extroverts over-looked and characteristics in extroverts which the introverts never got to understand.
In my growing up phase I begun to understand people differently. In this post I’m going to explain
the temperament of the introvert.
Introvert
- Logically dominated
- Prefers Independence
- Requires more privacy
- Has fewer (but closer) friends
- Thinks before he speaks
- Temperament stems from a sense of insecurity
- Humor is subtle/ironic
The introvert has an excellent ability of thinking logically and
handling they’re sense of time. They are a lot more perceptive to facts and details
rather then emotions and intuitive senses.
The introverts humor:
Despite what a lot of people think, the introverts do not lack a sense of humor, they’re humor is as real as ours except much subtler. What the Introvert look for when it comes to humor, isn’t the delivery or emotion but rather the subtext. They don’t look at what’s on the surface but instead
find joy in what is Ironic and not spoon fed. They prefer Satire to bamm in your face slapstick
humor.
Example:
(Quote from Wikipedia)
“The Descent was held as the most successful of the three according toticket sales and critical reviews; however, The Cave was the only
one of the three that was actually filmed inside a cave.”
Here the humor rests in the fact that the article is comparing it’s basis on A) A film making
a lot of money and B) A film which was shot in a cave. A little bit stupid.
Example 2:
Despite the fact that many people wouldn’t find this add funny, there is (introverted) humor which
rests in this add. Humor that no one is going to be prepared to knock a few things off they’re list
while they’re dying – at least not so they can earn some fabulous coupons
Example 3:
Is in the following line of a book called Dr. Strangelove - “You’ll have to answer to the Coca-Cola company” which is said while a soldier is holding a very intense face. Theres nothing funny about the line but instead the context. Theres a man who is desperately trying to make a phone call that could save the world from a catastrophic nuclear destruction so he asks a soldier to break into a vending machine to make change for the call. The soldier, hilariously unclear on the concept
speaks the line - “You’ll have to answer to the Coca-Cola company”
Con of the Introvert -
Emotional incognizance:
(lacking emotional awareness; unaware)
My (introverted) friend, no matter how many years I hung with never fully grasped the concept of another human being. I mean, despite him being incredibly intellectual and knowledgeable he never really got his concept around being ‘charming’ and often came across as obnoxious and even at times unpleasant – this is due to him looking at the facts of the situation and not the emotion.
Extroverts understand and are very good at improving social interactions by providing emotional value – usually taking a hit at at your ego and self esteem by making you FEEL good.
Not Think good. This is the basis of most interactions and it is where introverts go wrong. Here are a few basic examples:
You’ve just been fired
Introvert: “Stephanie’s not going to go out with you anymore if you don’t have any money.”
Extrovert: “Ten years from now you’ll probably walk back in there
and buy that place.
One states the facts, one boosts the ego.
—
Situation: Someones just called your friend weird for collecting stamps or something.
Introvert: Laughs harshly and says “He’s right.”
Extrovert: “Half the kids on my block had a stamp album when I
was growing up. Anyways.. have you ever noticed it’s always the peo
ple who accuse others of being weird who are the weirdest?”
Another one
—- Some hot chick at a party asks what you do for a living.
Introvert: “I’m a personal financial consultant at Merrill. Number one
producer in my office for the last three years, actually. It’s how I afford the condo in Sydney.”
Extrovert: “I’m in advertising—I make a living trying to convince people to buy shit they don’t need.”
My final opinion is that life is about balance, it’s about
being intellectual, capable of planning, mapping out goals and being
factual/pragmatic.. but it’s also about having the emotional intelligence to handle yourself and the people around you.
There is a massive barrier between introverts and extroverts which
makes them oblivious to the positive qualities within the opposite
temperament
